Today I’m answering a question that has been put to me and that is : “How can I MAXIMISE my productivity without sacrificing balance?”
Thanks for the question, it’s a really great one and here’s my take on it.
Pretty much any question that comes to me, the problem is always dissolved most easily by doing the internal work and so, you will nearly always find that the solutions that I suggest come from a mindset perspective. And I will break this one down into 4 steps.
NUMBER ONE : Ask ourselves “Why do we want balance?”
If you think about it, the reason we want to be balanced is because we want to feel happy right? We don’t want to be bored by being focussed solely on one area of our lives, we don’t want to be stressed by being overwhelmed by some of the tasks that we don’t enjoy as much as the fun things that we DO enjoy. In fact, basically anything that we set out to do, any change we want to make in our life, any goal we want to achieve, any desire we want realised we want because we believe that in the pursuit of attaining and then ultimately achieving or accomplishing that thing, we will be happier! Right? And that leads us to the next step.
NUMBER TWO : Understand the principle of cause = effect
So we have this idea that we believe that in the pursuit of attaining or achieving our desires, we will be happier which makes sense because, we’ve been brought up learning that cause = effect. Between the ages and 0-7yrs old, we learn (and by learn I mean we are intensively conditioned into believing) that:
- when we don’t do what we’re told (which is the cause), we will get in trouble (that is the effect)
- when we touch something hot (that’s the cause), we will get burnt (that’s the effect)
- we decide we want the latest toy when we’re a kid, our parents buy it for us, we’re happy
- we land that first job when we leave school, we’re happy
- we save up to buy that car that we want, we’re happy
In fact, this concept of cause = effect is one of the foundational presuppositions (or principles) of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
HOWEVER, the way we look at it from a perspective of personal empowerment is like this : we want to BE the cause of our own effects instead of being the effects of someone else’s cause. That takes us to the next step.
NUMBER THREE : Be the cause of our own effects
That one’s actually worth remembering so I’ll say it again “we want to be the cause of our own effects rather than be the effects of someone else’s cause.” So that means that instead of looking to something external to be the cause of our happiness, we will instead be the cause of our own happiness. We will do whatever it takes to make sure that we look after number one (that’s you!), after all that’s what it’s all about!
So, we will make it our sole 100% priority to make sure that we are happy (from the inside out). And what does that mean? That means we CHOOSE to be happy FIRST and then enjoy the “bonuses” that will naturally come from the feeling of already being happy within ourselves afterwards.
So, where does that leave us? Well, coming from this perspective, we are now in the optimum position to complete the last step and that is :
NUMBER FOUR : Let go of something!
If we are coming from a true place of contentment, having already filled ourselves up right to the brim with happiness internally, I guarantee, there will be something there on your to do list that you can now happily let go of. Letting go can be such an empowering process and when you make the decision to let go of something, your life will change.
So what now?
So after completing steps 1 to 3… that is :
1. Understanding that you want balance for happiness
2. Knowing that cause = effect and
3. Believing that you CAN be the cause of your own effect you have one decision to make and that is:
WHAT TO LET GO OF?
Something on your plate has gotten you out of balance, it’s outweighing the rest of the categories on your holistic plan of how you want your life to be (Sport / Social life / Career / Family / Finances / Health and so on). You will know immediately WHAT that thing is when you are actually reading these words so think about that thing, coming from your filled up happy and whole perspective of being content FIRST and decide can I let this thing go?
Now I’m not saying that you should look at all the things in your life and whatever has you out of balance or whatever currently seems to be draining you, just get rid of it – sometimes, the things that are part of fulfilling your life’s true purpose or the things that you are truly passionate about can get really really tough and do require that much more of your time, money and effort so it can be a tough one.
But when you go with your intuition, the decision is simple CAN I LET GO OF IT OR NOT?
If you now feel as though you can let go of it, that’s great! Think about all the positives about letting it go, how will letting this thing go really free you up physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually? BUT, If your intuition tells you it’s not time to let it go, now, doesn’t it seem so much easier to let go of something else? That big thing was the one thing you couldn’t let go of so move something else down the priority list for a while to give yourself room to fully push through the challenges you’re having with that thing that is causing you to feel unbalanced. But do it whilst remembering that one all important thing and that is that the balance you were previously searching for externally… you NO LONGER need to make you happy!
You hold the balance within yourself. It’s ok, to allow something major in your life to take over for a while if it’s your true purpose and passion because you are balanced, you are whole and you are happy from within. Coming from this place, your productivity will soar and you won’t feel out of balance again.
***A Final Note About Balance!***
Think about this, balance can take many forms (it’s really a massive mind game) – it doesn’t necessarily mean that right here and right now, all things should be equal in order to be balanced, so it’s not as if it has to be that you’re balanced on a daily basis or even a weekly basis. Perhaps it may mean spending so many days or months intensively working on a project so you may seem slightly out of balance for two or three days maybe even weeks because you’re spending more time on one thing than other things BUT KNOWING and remembering that over the long term, say over a few weeks or months you have the ability to bring everything into alignment by constantly reminding yourself of items you have on your agenda into the future that are going to provide that relief for you.
Well, I hope that helps, hit me up with any questions in the comments. Thanks for reading and please Like, Comment and share here on the blog or wherever you are reading this. I really appreciate your time and look forward to seeing you soon 🙂